Comments on: Why You Want Your Employees to Second-Guess You http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/07/25/why-you-want-your-employees-to-second-guess-you/ Articles on game theory and personal finance Thu, 29 Jul 2010 12:43:59 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Presh Talwalkar http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/07/25/why-you-want-your-employees-to-second-guess-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2192 Presh Talwalkar Tue, 29 Jul 2008 21:04:50 +0000 http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/07/25/why-you-want-your-employees-to-second-guess-you/#comment-2192 <b><em>Michael Cardus</b></em>: It is important to distinguish emotional "intelligence" from conventional intelligence. In many tasks, it is more important to be well understood and liked than it is to be logically or morally correct. <b><em>Asad</b></em>: It is a lot easier for us to say this than to practice it. I myself used to be very defensive about faults. Now when people nitpick me I just make a joke about it and move on. They know they got their point across, and we're all better off. <b><em>Milena Thomas</b></em>: Excellent point! Dealing with criticism can help with our personal lives too. It works with friendships as well. My best friends are the ones that are the most laid back and easygoing about being made fun of and criticized. We all improve together. Michael Cardus: It is important to distinguish emotional “intelligence” from conventional intelligence. In many tasks, it is more important to be well understood and liked than it is to be logically or morally correct.

Asad: It is a lot easier for us to say this than to practice it. I myself used to be very defensive about faults. Now when people nitpick me I just make a joke about it and move on. They know they got their point across, and we’re all better off.

Milena Thomas: Excellent point! Dealing with criticism can help with our personal lives too. It works with friendships as well. My best friends are the ones that are the most laid back and easygoing about being made fun of and criticized. We all improve together.

]]> By: Milena Thomas http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/07/25/why-you-want-your-employees-to-second-guess-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2185 Milena Thomas Mon, 28 Jul 2008 18:04:15 +0000 http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/07/25/why-you-want-your-employees-to-second-guess-you/#comment-2185 I can see a parallel in your personal relationships. I've found that when my husband and I quarrel, I often find myself taking time to think, "Is what he saying valid, despite how I feel about it?" I have made huge progress in our relationship by listening to criticisms for their legitimacy instead of defending myself no matter what. I think we have a much healthier relationship. No doubt this would translate to the workplace as well. I can see a parallel in your personal relationships. I’ve found that when my husband and I quarrel, I often find myself taking time to think, “Is what he saying valid, despite how I feel about it?” I have made huge progress in our relationship by listening to criticisms for their legitimacy instead of defending myself no matter what. I think we have a much healthier relationship. No doubt this would translate to the workplace as well.

]]> By: Asad http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/07/25/why-you-want-your-employees-to-second-guess-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2180 Asad Sun, 27 Jul 2008 16:12:03 +0000 http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/07/25/why-you-want-your-employees-to-second-guess-you/#comment-2180 I think leaders in a variety of contexts should encourage questioning. Teachers should encourage their students to question them. Parents should encourage their kids to question them. Coaches should encourage their players to question them. Questioning shows that a person is thinking about what they've been asked to do and that they want to do it in the best way possible. Check me out at asad123.wordpress.com. I comment about life, politics, music, religion, and other topics. I think leaders in a variety of contexts should encourage questioning. Teachers should encourage their students to question them. Parents should encourage their kids to question them. Coaches should encourage their players to question them. Questioning shows that a person is thinking about what they’ve been asked to do and that they want to do it in the best way possible.

Check me out at asad123.wordpress.com. I comment about life, politics, music, religion, and other topics.

]]> By: michael cardus http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/07/25/why-you-want-your-employees-to-second-guess-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2173 michael cardus Sat, 26 Jul 2008 13:53:29 +0000 http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/07/25/why-you-want-your-employees-to-second-guess-you/#comment-2173 Being second guessed is a comfort level that takes a mature and trained leadership. Often time leaders feel that they are paid to be the end all of there organizations idea tree. They are paid to make tough decisions - questioning my authority is a sign of insubordination. Emotionallly INtellegent and mature leaders allow questions that are based on the betterment of the team. WHen one asks a question it is (many times) to make them look better in front of peers - or to throw a zinger at the boss. These question must be sent with an open an true desire for team and organizaitonal growth. This also takes training and understanding of team conflict and dynamics. Being second guessed is a comfort level that takes a mature and trained leadership. Often time leaders feel that they are paid to be the end all of there organizations idea tree. They are paid to make tough decisions – questioning my authority is a sign of insubordination.
Emotionallly INtellegent and mature leaders allow questions that are based on the betterment of the team.
WHen one asks a question it is (many times) to make them look better in front of peers – or to throw a zinger at the boss. These question must be sent with an open an true desire for team and organizaitonal growth.
This also takes training and understanding of team conflict and dynamics.

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