Comments on: The Financially Responsible Way to Deal with Anger http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/08/01/the-financially-responsible-way-to-deal-with-anger/ Articles on game theory and personal finance Sun, 20 May 2012 23:31:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Fine, I’ll Admit It: I Hate Relaxing : Brazen Careerist - A Career Center for Generation Y http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/08/01/the-financially-responsible-way-to-deal-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2227 Fine, I’ll Admit It: I Hate Relaxing : Brazen Careerist - A Career Center for Generation Y Mon, 04 Aug 2008 05:00:34 +0000 http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/?p=400#comment-2227 [...] Talwalkar, of Mind Your Decisions, wrote a fantastic post recently on his experiences with anger. He indicated that he used to be an angry person, exploding at employees, and even enjoying the [...] [...] Talwalkar, of Mind Your Decisions, wrote a fantastic post recently on his experiences with anger. He indicated that he used to be an angry person, exploding at employees, and even enjoying the [...]

]]> By: Presh Talwalkar http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/08/01/the-financially-responsible-way-to-deal-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2225 Presh Talwalkar Mon, 04 Aug 2008 04:38:05 +0000 http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/?p=400#comment-2225 <b><em>Milena Thomas</b></em>: I absolutely agree that many people are defeatist about making good changes. There is also a big personal benefit to change for having less stress and possibly reducing the incidence of heart disease. Dr. Dean Ornish writes about how meditation and love are important forces, and he uses them in patients. <b><em>Christina</b></em>: Thanks for sharing an inside story. I am glad to see my suspicion confirmed! Milena Thomas: I absolutely agree that many people are defeatist about making good changes. There is also a big personal benefit to change for having less stress and possibly reducing the incidence of heart disease. Dr. Dean Ornish writes about how meditation and love are important forces, and he uses them in patients.

Christina: Thanks for sharing an inside story. I am glad to see my suspicion confirmed!

]]> By: Christina http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/08/01/the-financially-responsible-way-to-deal-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2224 Christina Mon, 04 Aug 2008 01:29:02 +0000 http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/?p=400#comment-2224 I agree with this article completely, and I've been on both sides of the issue. I was a director at my camp last summer, and I realized very quickly that people were way more likely to help me if I treated each person with respect and asked for actions and help in a positive way rather than demanding it. I think it's a question of expectations (something you also learn in teaching classes). When you expect that someone will be pleasant and helpful, and act that way, a lot of times people rise to meet your expectations. I've also been a sales associate in a department store, and would be way more likely to go out of my way to help people who were pleasant and patient than to help those who were belligerent or yelled at me for things that were not my fault (like long lines or lack of boxes behind the register). It's natural - the guy who's being rude to you is a guy you just want to not have to deal with anymore, not someone you want to take extra time to help. I agree with this article completely, and I’ve been on both sides of the issue. I was a director at my camp last summer, and I realized very quickly that people were way more likely to help me if I treated each person with respect and asked for actions and help in a positive way rather than demanding it. I think it’s a question of expectations (something you also learn in teaching classes). When you expect that someone will be pleasant and helpful, and act that way, a lot of times people rise to meet your expectations.

I’ve also been a sales associate in a department store, and would be way more likely to go out of my way to help people who were pleasant and patient than to help those who were belligerent or yelled at me for things that were not my fault (like long lines or lack of boxes behind the register). It’s natural – the guy who’s being rude to you is a guy you just want to not have to deal with anymore, not someone you want to take extra time to help.

]]> By: Milena Thomas http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/08/01/the-financially-responsible-way-to-deal-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2218 Milena Thomas Sat, 02 Aug 2008 16:23:13 +0000 http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/?p=400#comment-2218 What fantastic observations. So many people believe they are destined to be controlled by their emotions, "That's just who I am!" when really they are just habits. A habit is a neutral thing. It could be good or bad. It is simply a neural response learned over time. Thanks for proving people can change! What fantastic observations. So many people believe they are destined to be controlled by their emotions, “That’s just who I am!” when really they are just habits. A habit is a neutral thing. It could be good or bad. It is simply a neural response learned over time.

Thanks for proving people can change!

]]> By: Presh Talwalkar http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/2008/08/01/the-financially-responsible-way-to-deal-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-2211 Presh Talwalkar Sat, 02 Aug 2008 03:47:55 +0000 http://mindyourdecisions.com/blog/?p=400#comment-2211 <b><em>Shug</b><em>: Yes, anger can "get things done" but I think we forget its true cost. Anger is easy to abuse and does cause internal stress, often associated with things like heart attacks. I get angry too, but I express it better ways, like writing or physical exertion. Shug:
Yes, anger can “get things done” but I think we forget its true cost. Anger is easy to abuse and does cause internal stress, often associated with things like heart attacks. I get angry too, but I express it better ways, like writing or physical exertion.

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